Twenty Seventh Sunday in Ordinary Time Year B
Today’s gospel proclaims three eternal truths which do not sit well with modern sensibilities. In fact, they may even seem archaic, regressive and inhumane. But the fact that it is our Lord Jesus Christ Himself who speaks it, assures us of their revelatory and eternally relevant character. So rather than suppress or sanitise these truths for fear that they may offend someone or another, it is good to remember this saying which has been commonly but falsely, attributed to St Augustine: “truth is like a lion. You don’t have to defend it. Let it loose. It will defend itself.”
These three simple truths are as follows:
God made humanity male and female.
God intended marriage to be a permanent
commitment for life.
God is the author of life and He is
unapologetically pro-life.
Having explained that Moses’ permission
for couples to divorce was a mere concession due to the unteachability of the
people, our Lord then declares that “from the beginning of creation God made
them male and female.” This statement should be so obvious, that it shouldn’t
require restating or explaining, and yet, in today’s modern gender-bending
society, making such a statement could get you “cancelled” for being intolerant
and disrespectful to an entire spectrum of make-believe sexual identities.
The Catechism of the Catholic Church
boldly teaches: “Everyone, man and woman, should acknowledge and accept his
sexual identity. Physical, moral, and spiritual difference and complementarity
are oriented toward the goods of marriage and the flourishing of family life.
The harmony of the couple and of society depends in part on the way in which
the complementarity, needs, and mutual support between the sexes are lived
out.” (No. 2333) God is the only One who has the power and authority to define
us, and He did so at creation by making us into His “image and likeness”, and
it would be arrogance to think that we can redefine ourselves by changing our
pronouns or performing mutilating surgery on ourselves so that we can make
ourselves into our own skewed image and likeness.
The second truth which our Lord pronounces
speaks of the permanence and indissolubility of marriage: “what God has united,
man must not divide.” Many modern people believe that such a demand is both
harsh and inhumane. Why force two persons, who no longer have feelings for each
other, to remain bonded for life? Isn’t this cruel? Would this be condemning
them to a life-sentence of misery? The permanence of marriage would seem cruel
if we merely view marriage through the lenses of a human contract. With the
recognition of human frailty and the unpredictability of future events, all
contracts contain exit clauses allowing the parties to part ways. But not
marriage!
The bond of marriage is a divinely
instituted reality (“what God has united”), not a matter of human convention,
and when that bond is created in the life of two Christians, it simply cannot
be broken. This bond, is intended by God to symbolise the love of Christ for
His Church. Pope Emeritus Benedict wrote: “Marriage is not simply about the
relationship of two people to God, it is also a reality of the Church, a
sacrament, and it is not for the individuals concerned to decide on its
validity, but rather for the Church, into which the individuals are
incorporated by faith and baptism.” If we understand anything about the
relationship between Christ and His Church, we would understand that it cannot
be broken by any power in the universe…A spouse can no more become an ex-spouse
than a father can become an ex-father.
The third truth naturally flows from the
first two truths: if marriage is a union between a man and a woman and their
bond is marked by indissoluble permanence, having children and starting a
family would not just be a theological but a logical conclusion. And so, our
Lord declares, “Let the little children come to me; do not stop them; for it is
to such as these that the kingdom of God belongs.” When God gave man and woman
the ability to have sexual intercourse, He tied it with the ability to
procreate. This is the reason why same-sex “marriages” cannot be real marriages
and why the Church teaches against the use of contraception. Contraception not
only breaks the ties between the sexual act and procreation, but also impedes
our share in God’s creative love. Cut
off from God, man can never experience true lasting joy.
Love, real love, is sacrificial. If love
entails sacrifice, then children would always be regarded as a blessing, the
fruit of that love. But this is not what the world tells us. Our culture often
teaches us that children are more of a burden than a gift—that families impede
our freedom and diminish our finances.
We live in a world where large families are the objects of spectacle and
derision, instead of the ordinary consequence of a loving marriage entrusted to
God’s providence. Although it may seem, to selfish immature parents, that
children bring to an end the romantic phase of their marriage and their
personal autonomy, children are actually the gift needed to allow the couple’s
love to grow and flourish, to embrace others beyond the two.
Today, the world has no qualms celebrating
marriages, civil unions and what they claim to be same-sex marriages. Couples,
families spend a life-time’s savings, even prepared to take up loans to fund
extravagant celebrations. But the openness to children is rarely celebrated,
rarely understood, and rarely supported.
To many, the Church’s teachings on life seem oppressive or old-fashioned. Many believe that the Church asks too great a
sacrifice. But sacrifice is at the heart of love. Love which is not willing to
make sacrifices is counterfeit.
Many Catholics today complain and demand
that the Catholic Church should change in order that they may feel “more
welcomed,” and it is unfortunate, that many well-intentioned pastors also
believe that the only way they can be compassionate and pastoral is by
affirming their delusions. But Pope Francis warned of those he called
“alternativists,” those who, in the Pope’s words, say to themselves, “I’ll
enter the Church, but with this idea, with this ideology.” They propose
conditions “and their membership in the Church is thereby partial.” They too
“have one foot outside the Church; they’re renting the Church” but don’t really
experience it… They seek an alternative, because they don’t share the common
experience of the Church.”
So, what is needed is not for the Church
to change her teachings. She cannot change them. She has no authority to do so
because it is our Lord’s teachings. Rather, it is we, who need to change, to
die to ourselves, our selfish, self-centred and self-absorbed ways, so that we
may conform ourselves more and more to Christ, who shows us the true meaning of
love by dying on the cross for us. We are called to continue to proclaim the
truth, beauty and goodness of the complementarity of sexes, fidelity of
marriage and sanctity of life in a culture which eagerly confuses genders,
promotes divorce and engenders a culture of death by promoting abortion.
To all married couples and those who are
planning to get married or start a family, do not let fear, anxiety or worry
get in the way of you loving each other sacrificially and being open to the
children you may receive from God. Do not put a cap on what He wishes to give
you. Let Him be the judge of that. Entrust yourselves to the Lord who will
provide for all your needs.